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Words: Jess WilsonI’m sitting on a train and someone has left a magazine on the table. Bored, I pick it up to read. A whole section is dedicated to sex and relationships and some of the headings catch my eye: “Celebrity sex secrets revealed”, “100 ways to be a better lover – how to have your cake and eat it”, “Real life: I slept with my best friend’s husband on the morning of their wedding”.
I’m buying music from i-tunes and I’m glancing at the top 100 singles of which the majority bare the word “Explicit” highlighted next to the track name. Even some of the “clean” tracks are clearly written about sex. Artists are using semi-naked dancers in their music videos to increase sales. The latest “Big Brother” stars are openly discussing their sex lives and debating ‘who did what and with whom’ during their stay in the house.
{mosgoogle left}I’m walking down a city high street and the glaring shop window of Ann Summers is hard to miss. The shop promises a gateway to a better sex-life, for single people as well as those in relationships. Filled with provocative images and posters baring double entendre after double entendre, it’s not surprising that people stop to look. Take a walk to the outskirts of the city centre and you will not need to look very far before you find a shop bearing a “strictly adults only” sign in its blacked-out window.
There have been times when I’ve wished that I’d gotten losing my virginity “out of the way”. I used to have the idea that my wedding night would be reminiscent of a Hollywood film. It would be perfect, it would all come naturally to me, there would be no awkward moments, no embarrassing mistakes and I was certain that it would be the most amazing and pleasurable night of my life. Now I know better! Of course it’s going to be messy, I will be totally inexperienced and I won’t know which buttons to press! But as the saying goes “practise makes perfect” and who better to practise with than the one whom you waited for, the receiver of your most precious gift? How much better will that be rather than being picture perfect and yet filled with regret and pain from previous sexual partners to whom you have given anyway something that you cannot take back? Your virginity does not have a returns policy. There have also been times when I’ve felt like a freak, when everyone else seems to be ‘doing it’ apart from me. I’ve felt the pressure to conform and be like everyone else.
True love waits. A well-known saying. Maybe even an over-used saying. But such a true saying and one that I believe so strongly in. I recently split up with my boyfriend. We were very much in love and had been together for a significant amount of time. I’d spent time with his family and he’d spent time with mine. We’d planned to get married and had discussed the plans for our future. I thought I knew every single part of his being. He was the most kind, generous, loving man that I had ever met and I had the privilege of being able to call him my boyfriend.
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